Potty training is HARD!
Trust me, you'd much rather be building that house, checking those spreadsheets, or whatever fun stuff you’re doing that you currently call “work”.
Through a series of circumstances, I’m in the role of stay-at-home dad right now. It’s not my first choice. It’s not my second, third, fourth, or fifth choice, really. But it’s where I’m at, and the learning curve is steep. So, I thought I’d share a few insights about what your wife goes through.
Here is how her morning went. She got to sit in the bathroom for the better part of three hours trying to "encourage" your toddler to poop.
“You can do it little buddy! You're going to get so many treats when you finally go poopy in the toilet! You’re such a big boy!”
He’s really excited about those treats. He’s buying in for sure.
Only, the poop never comes.
That is, until three minutes after he’s off the toilet.
Now she gets to start the process all over again, hoping he’ll get it right the next time. Oh, and she can’t show any frustration. Can’t punish them for not going on the toilet. Can’t show any disappointment. Nope. She just has to keep smiling and being a bright, bubbly, enthusiastic cheerleader for team poopy. Yay!
You can make her life a lot easier. Start by trying to recognize everything she does. You can’t actually recognize everything until you’ve gone through it. Keeping them for half a day is not the same thing as keeping them all day. Everyday. Day after day.
I promise. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done in my life.
I’ve built houses. I was a financial analyst. I worked 10-hour night shifts at a steel mill while going to college full-time during the day.
This is harder.
Show some appreciation to your exhausted wife. Start today. Give her a nice break from the kids and housework when you get home.
Tell her that you realize you can't fully understand what she goes through without experiencing it, but you know it's not easy.
And you appreciate her.
And you love her. Very much.
In my next post, I’ll share more insights to help you guys understand what your wife goes through. I’ll also offer some practical tips for how you can help. Be sure to come back or sign up for email alerts to get notified of new postings.